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A good friend is someone who will be there for you in times of need. They will listen and support you during difficult periods, but also enjoy good times with you. A friend is someone you trust that you can turn to for advice.
To get the most out of friends you need:
- respect for each other. Our ‘Respect’ poster gives you more information.
- to compromise on disagreements and agree that sometimes you both have differences of opinions and move on
- communication. If you can’t always see your friends you can stay in touch by calling, texting, instant messaging and Email.
Friendships formed during your teen years may come and go, but some will last into your adult years and even for a lifetime. Tell one of your friends today how much you appreciate them and see how good that makes you both feel.
Have you ever experienced your friends asking you to do something that you don’t want to do? If this is so, then you have experienced peer pressure. You might feel pressure to do as they do, and this may make you feel uncomfortable. You might be pressured to skip school, have sex, smoke, drink alcohol or take drugs. You need to form your own opinions and choose your friends carefully. A good friend will respect your decisions, even if they disagree. Forming your own opinions will make you feel stronger and you will be more respected for doing it.
You might not be ready to have sex, you might hate smoking or not want to drink alcohol or take drugs. You will need to try and form your own opinions - it will be worth it, you will feel stronger and you'll be more respected for doing it.
Samaritans – 0845 7 90 90 90 www.samaritans.org.uk
You can speak in total confidence with a Samaritan volunteer about anything that is troubling you. They will not judge you and will not try and tell you what to do, but they will try to help you think things through.
Connexions Direct - 080 800 13 2 19, by text on 07766 4 13 2 19, by textphone 08000 968 336
Shykids
This site has good tips on how to make friends.
Onion Street
The BBC's advice site on making friends.
Kidscape
Gives advice on making good friends and avoiding the not-so-good friends.
The Childrens Society
Looks at the Good Childhood Inquiry and invites you to take part in polls and have your say on friendships.
Kids Health
This website gives you further information about dealing with peer pressure and how to walk away from peer pressure.
Your Comments
Posted - 02:49, 18 Mar 2008
Hi,
Thanks for your comment, I am sure you are not the only one who feels like this, at Connexions we deal with lots of young people with relationship issues. To help with your individual question it sounds like you need someone to talk to. Did you know that you can contact your local connexions centre and speak to a Personal Adviser about friendships. You can get in touch by dropping into a centre, calling or by sending an email. All contact details are on the website under the Connexions Centres Page.
I am sure that other young people in the same position as you will be glad to hear from someone going through the same things so thanks for your comment.
Good Luck
Connexions PA
Posted - 11:35, 08 May 2008
i think my freinds use me for money and that what should i do xx
Posted - 01:38, 13 May 2008
Hi, thanks for your comment. It is important that you and your friends respect each other and if you feel that your friends are using you for money; try to only carry the amount of money that you need for yourself. This way you are unable to lend your friends money or to buy them things. If they really respect you this should not make any difference to your friendship. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to them. You can talk in more detail about your concern confidentially with a Connexions Personal Adviser in your school/college or local Connexions Centre.
Good luck
Connexions PA
Posted - 12:05, 24 Aug 2008
i frequently get really angry, where can i get help for my anger issues
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Posted - 11:23, 12 Mar 2008
i like my frend, but dey dont respect me. wot shood i do cos theres noone else dat i can befrend?