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People break up for lots of different reasons. Sometimes you realise that you're not suited to each other, or that you have grown apart. Everyone has different reasons for splitting up, but it's likely that someone in the relationship will be upset. If you realise that you are in a relationship with someone that you are no longer romantically interested in, it's time to be honest and tell them.
When you realise that you no longer feel the way that you once did about your partner, it is important that you let your partner down gently. They may feel differently to you, or similar to the way that you feel. Above all it is important that you are honest with yourself and your partner. Although break-ups can be really hard on relationships, honesty will salvage any possible future friendship.
Tips to help you end a relationship
- Get alone with them. Don't do this on the phone!
- Relax. You are doing the right thing - they need to know the truth.
- Tell them that you feel this relationship on its current level needs to end.
- Give them some time to let it sink in.
- If they try to convince you to give them another chance, listen to them.
- Tell them that you've made up your mind.
- Tell them at what level you would like to keep your relationship (acquaintances, never-see, friends, etc).
- Listen to their response. Respect their feelings about this new level.
- Let them go when they feel they need to end the conversation.
You can talk to a Personal Adviser at one of our local Connexions Centres/One Stop Shops if you're worried about any aspect of a relationship, or have recently broken-up with someone.
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